Do you secretly believe some part of you is innately flawed?
Do you seek approval from others as a way to avoid feelings of unworthiness?
And is it hard to for you to fully trust in (and rely on) the wisdom of your Higher Guidance?
Those of us who’ve been on a transformational path can spend many years meditating, in therapy and personal growth workshops. We’ve worked on releasing our childhood stories. We’ve journaled our traumas. We’ve replaced limiting beliefs with more empowering ones.
And yet, unconditional self-love... the key to healing core shame, experiencing real freedom and a sustainable connection with the Divine, may elude us.
A subtle level of judgment and frustration with where we are — a sense of not quite being good enough — persists.
Deep down, you too, may feel unlovable, inadequate and ashamed of parts of yourself...
You may even hate aspects of yourself.
These thoughts not only make you feel badly about yourself, they also undermine your relationships. You show up looking to get love rather than share love, which creates anxiety and conflict.
The beliefs that prevent you from creating a secure sense of inner wholeness can be traced back to the parts of you that are in need of healing.
Very few of us developed a truly healthy template for love in childhood. To survive the pain of neglect and the lack of role models for unconditional love, children often blame themselves — creating a core sense of shame or inadequacy.
Instead of addressing such feelings at their root, we often create substitute ways to either experience some sense of unconditional love or avoid its painful absence through addictions to alcohol, drugs or sex, bouts with unhealthy eating patterns, or even numbing our feelings though obsessions with media or technology.
Anything, it seems, to fill that emptiness inside so we can feel better about ourselves.
So when you hear spiritual teachers sing the praises of unconditional love, you may feel depressed because you’re keenly aware of the swirl of self-judging thoughts, muddied emotions and seemingly endless drama that manifests in your relationships — which feel anything but loving.
Tapping into a steady stream of unconditional love from within can seem like an impossible goal. Even if you’re a dedicated seeker, you may find yourself struggling with a sense of incompleteness — and the belief that wholeness is so impossibly beyond your reach.
The solution? Discovering how to truly love different parts of yourself, and to create a secure inner bond between them.
The lack of this deep inner bonding is at the core of a remarkable number of challenges you may be dealing with, from relationship struggles to addictions, anxiety and depression.
And this leads to rejecting or abandoning yourself... often unconsciously.
It’s time for a new approach — one that blends spiritual practices with psychological science. That approach is Inner Bonding, co-founded by psychologist Dr. Margaret Paul.
Inner Bonding begins with compassionate, deep inquiry into accessing and healing wounded parts of yourself and creating a new inner template — one based on the wisdom of your higher Self, rather than the flawed “teachings” of your childhood role models.
It helps you feel, embrace, and embody your totality, so you release any control games and addictive patterns, and respond to others in a way that reflects real self-love.
The core practices of Inner Bonding have proven effective for thousands of people — including people like Grammy-winning artist Alanis Morissette, a powerful public champion of the work.
During the Finally, Truly Loving Yourself 14-week program, you’ll learn the core insights and practices of this groundbreaking approach and be supported to bring them deeply into your life to cultivate true unconditional self-love and self-worth — the foundation needed to move beyond addictions, dramas and dysfunctions of all kinds.
One way of understanding the Inner Bonding approach is to think about how psychology has shown that different levels of secure attachment are essential for a developing child. When you don’t have the attachments you need, parts of you feel left out and rejected — parts of your personality and Self that were not seen, embraced or loved by your parents.
Virtually all of us reach adulthood with some aspects of ourselves feeling this pain of rejection.
Instead of accepting this woundedness as a hopeless scenario, Inner Bonding uses a specific and proven 6-step methodology to establish clear, loving connections between these different aspects of your consciousness, and also to your higher Self.
You’ll be taken through these six steps in a precise, immersive way during Finally, Truly Loving Yourself Through Advanced Inner Bonding — giving you not only an experience of unconditional love in the present, but also the ongoing support to work deeply with different aspects of your Self that block sustained healing.
You’ll learn how to dialogue with your feelings, pain, anxiety, self-hatred and fear, as well as get to the core of self-abandonment and shame. You’ll see how you can start connecting to higher guidance around your beliefs, and take loving actions that reinforce positive shifts.
You’ll even learn how to establish new brain pathways for truly loving yourself.
Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings — the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.
Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. When you’re in the intent to learn you are a loving adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.
Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear, and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.
Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What’s the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? What’s the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What’s in your highest good? What’s kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they’ll come.
Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your guidance that is always here for you.
Check in to see if your pain, anger, and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth. These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.
Course sessions are on Thursdays at 4:00pm Pacific.
In this 14-week transformational intensive, Margaret will guide you through the fundamental spiritual skills and competencies you’ll need to bond with the wounded parts of yourself and truly love yourself.
Each weekly contemplation and training session will build harmoniously upon the previous ones so you’ll develop a complete holistic understanding of the practices, tools, and principles you’ll need to practice Inner Bonding in your daily life.
In this first module, Dr. Margaret will provide a powerful overview of the terms used in Inner Bonding and the six steps of this healing process. Following the overview session, Dr. Margaret will work one-one-one with participants.
In this module, you’ll:
In this second week, you’ll discover the healing powers of willingness, what it means to be present with your feelings, take responsibility for feelings — and why you may resist doing so.
In this module, you’ll:
This week, we will delve deeply into the feelings caused by the self-rejection and self-abandonment of the wounded self and some of the information these feelings have for you.
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This week, you’ll explore the deeper feelings of life that you might have spent a lifetime avoiding with various addictions. You will discover the two intents you can choose from moment by moment, and how subtle this can often be.
In this module, you’ll discover:
This week you’ll receive help with connecting with your personal source of spiritual guidance, and what creates the loving adult self.
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This week, you’ll receive in-depth support with the powerful Inner Bonding dialogue process, which enables you to discover what your feelings are telling you and identify the false beliefs that cause much of your pain. You’ll go deeper into the ways you reject and abandon yourself that cause so much pain, and how shame is tied up with the intent to control.
In this module, you’ll:
This week, we’ll dive deeper into dialoguing with wounded feelings and the painful existential feelings of life. You’ll learn how to lovingly manage the deeper core painful feelings life so that you no longer have to cover them over with various substance and process addictions.
In this module, you’ll:
Your soul knows what brings you joy and you’ll learn how to discover this, and the choices you need to make to at-will connection with your spiritual guidance.
In this module, you’ll:
There’s much to learn about how to communicate with your guidance — the kinds of questions to ask, learning to discern when it’s your guidance answering, and what needs to occur to trust your guidance. Remembering the times your guidance was there for you is part of learning to trust.
In this module, you’ll:
This week, you’ll discover which actions are loving physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, organizationally, and relationally — and the false beliefs that stop loving action.
In this module, you’ll:
One of the most important loving actions you can take is to define your intrinsic worth. You will start to learn to that this week, along with understanding procrastination. We will also begin to focus on loving actions in relationships.
In this module, you’ll:
Understand the powerful loving action in relationships of lovingly disengaging in conflict. Then we move into Step Six where you learn how to evaluate whether your action is loving to you and in your highest good, as well as deepening your understanding of Inner Bonding as a lifelong process.
In this module, you’ll:
Inner Bonding is an all-day form of meditation. What does it look like to practice Inner Bonding in daily life (and when you’re happy!)?
In this module, you’ll:
In this final module, Dr. Margaret will review of the entire method for truly loving yourself and illuminate the some of the beautiful possibilities, which are the result of an ongoing Inner Bonding practice.
In this module, you’ll review:
In addition to Margaret’s powerful 14-week advanced program, you’ll receive these illuminating bonuses. These bonus materials complement the course — and promise to take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.
In How to Become Strong Enough to Love, Margaret Paul quickly brings us to the core principles that get in the way of healthy, romantic and fulfilling relationships. She shows where these roadblocks come from and what can be done to build or rebuild strong, confident and loving relationships. Incisive, real life case histories demonstrate what is behind relationship problems and how they can be overcome.
In this podcast series — which includes three hours of content — Dr. Anita Archer asks Dr. Margaret questions that have been submitted by members of the Inner Bonding Village. Dr. Margaret answers many relationship questions regarding what it looks like to take loving care of yourself when faced with challenging situations with others, how to take loving care of yourself with yourself and within relationships, and also explores various aspects of creating connection — and what creates disconnection — with a partner, a friend, a relative, and oneself.
Anita L. Archer, PhD, is an educational consultant to school districts on explicit instruction, the design and delivery of instruction, behavior management, and literacy instruction. She has taught elementary and middle school students and is the recipient of 10 awards honoring her excellence in teaching and contributions to the field of education. Dr. Archer has served on the faculties of San Diego State University, the University of Washington in Seattle, and the University of Oregon in Eugene. She is nationally known for her professional development activities, having presented in every state over the course of her 40-year career. Dr. Archer is co-author, with Dr. Mary Gleason, of numerous curriculum materials addressing reading, writing, and study skills.
I recommend Dr. Paul’s work to all of my clients as it’s a practice that’s easy to learn and practice and when a person DOES practice it, IT WORKS. I particularly like this Shift Network format for keeping consistency, growing your practice, offering great examples, and having both audio recordings AND transcripts.
— Nina Potter, Relationship Coach, St. Paul, Minnesota
The advanced program for the Inner Bonding process guides you in learning the principles deeply and putting them to practice in your everyday life. Past programming is so strong that it can take time and effort to overcome it. I needed more in-depth guidance than merely reading a book or listening to recordings. I needed live interactions that addressed my specific circumstances. Dr Paul is as gifted as she is knowledgeable. You won’t regret investing in yourself by taking this course.
This is a course that’s very informative and helped me to honor and communicate with my inner child. I learned so much and had huge shifts during this course. I’m so grateful to Dr. Margaret Paul for the work she’s doing.
— Kathy S., Loveland, Colorado
This course is so transformational. Dr Margaret Paul is a true transformational pioneer in the personal development field. I feel this is just the beginning for me and more will be revealed as I practice Inner Bonding as a way of live. I am truly grateful and satisfied with the course. Thank you.
— Wanda Almonte, Miami, Florida
I learned how we abandon ourselves and why we do so. And Inner bonding teaches me how to heal the abandonment wounds. Actually, every session of Dr Paul’s course is so profound that I listen to them again and again. The power of these teachings is so empowering. Inner Bonding feels right to my heart, mind, and spirit.
— Rukmini, New Delhi, India
Margaret Paul is able to explain a life-changing process of healing with clarity, patience, and love. I am forever grateful for this course.
— L.B., Denver, Colorado
For any teacher to have a true and deep impact on what they share, they must first have lived experience. Importantly, they must also be able to break the information down and explain it in such a way that it makes sense and is easy to digest. Dr Margaret Paul is such a teacher. The Inner Bonding process is a phenomenal way to learn about yourself and how you may have been inadvertently ignoring the younger part of you that needs your love and attention the most.
— Susan, New South Wales, Australia
This course helped to transform my life, so I am now able to live a happier and freer existence than I ever thought possible.
— Sue, United Kingdom
After years of self-help courses and counseling, I found in this course a remedy to heal my inner self deeply.
— Nancy, Reno, Nevada
It inspired me to make pauses where I aim to connect with my Higher Self, to stay more centered in my heart, and give to myself the love and support I used to want from others.
— Maria, Cascais, Portugal
Inner Bonding is a process that really addressed challenges I was dealing with in my life. Margaret Paul has a beautiful gift and I feel honored to benefit from her knowledge and intuitive support of all of us in the program.
— Lauren, Austin, Texas
Dr. Margaret Paul’s Inner Bonding course has helped me a great deal in recognizing the actions of my wounded self. I have much more insight into soothing my inner child. Thank you for your work.
— Brenda Tiny, Ontario, Canada
Finally, Truly Loving Yourself Through Advanced Inner Bonding not only offers some of the most advanced online teachings currently available, it also offers a thriving global community of learning and practice.
Join your fellow students and practitioners from across the world in the live interactive conference calls or in our online community to support and learn from each other while you learn to take your self love and relationships to the next level.
This international community is at the leading edge of a global movement of people who are committed to manifesting a better world for all beings. This emerging planetary movement is rooted in an open heart and stands for the principles of mutual support, cooperation, harmony, and reverence for all of life.
Fourteen 90-minute Class Sessions With Margaret Paul
Experience a rare opportunity to be mentored and learn from one of the world’s leading self love teachers from the comfort of your own home. Each class session offers teaching content for deeper learning — plus Q&A and group coaching in which Margaret will work with participants on the line each week to help integrate and deepen the transformations. Course sessions are on Thursdays at 4:00pm Pacific.
Fourteen Audio Recordings of Class Sessions
After each class, the audio will be available for you to download in high-quality MP3 format. You’ll never have to worry about missing a session, and you can listen anytime and anywhere — on any connected device and at your convenience.
Fourteen PDF Transcripts of Class Sessions
In addition to the high-quality MP3 audios, you’ll also receive the entire class transcription in PDF format after each session is completed. You can then review, print, and highlight the most important insights and practices you were given.
Fourteen 30-minute Interactive Group Practice Sessions
With live class attendance, there will be a 30-minute optional interactive practice session directly following each class. You’ll be placed in an intimate group with several other participants on the conference call to interact, share, and do additional practices to help further integrate the weekly lessons. If you’re unable to attend the calls live, the Online Community group allows you to connect with each other to find alternative times to interact.
Interactive Exercises and Questions for Each Lesson
After each lesson, you’ll have the option of completing related exercises, practicing new tools, and answering questions to accelerate your learning and integrate each week’s lesson.
Our exclusive Facebook online community is the perfect place to continue your discovery process after each class. Here, you can continue the discussion about deepening practices and interact with your fellow students to take your exploration to an even deeper level.
The Advanced Inner Bonding Bonus Collection
We feel honored Dr. Margaret Paul has chosen to partner with The Shift Network to offer this exclusive online training. This is a rare opportunity to interact directly with a renowned author and psychologist whose powerful insights and pioneering work are helping us heal and take our self love and relationships to the next level.
Through this powerful online format, you’ll not only save time and money on workshop costs (plus travel, accommodations, and meals — which would cost thousands of dollars), you’ll be able to benefit from Dr. Margaret’s incredible teachings and exercises from the comfort of your home — and at your own pace!
If you’re ready to take the next step in evolving yourself, click the register button below to reserve your space now.
Inner Bonding really nurtures and fosters the relationship between self and spirit.
Personally, it has helped every relationship that I have. I’m so grateful to Margaret for bringing Inner Bonding to people in the generous, nurturing way that she has.
— Alanis Morissette, Singer-songwriter
[Here] is a method for recreating yourself as a powerful, spiritually connected, loving adult self... a powerful method for healing relationship and family conflict, as well as for healing self-destructive and addictive behavior.
— Neale Donald Walsch, Author of Conversations with God
Would you think me crazy if I said there was a single process that could solve all the issues with which we as human beings struggle? [Inner Bonding teaches] a most loving process [that] will take you on a life-changing journey.
— Lindsay Wagner, Actress, author, humanitarian
Margaret Paul teaches the value of stepping into a new spiritual paradigm — into love and trust of self, others, and God
— Jack Canfield, Co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series
I have had counselling sessions in the past but none have been able to give me the answers I needed in order to feel complete. I have begun a journey of self-healing which I never thought possible.
— Sherry, United Kingdom
I got to really understand how to give my wounded inner child love and appreciate the importance of giving myself love as the first step in healing emotional issues... I’m much more aware of what I need and am working to give myself love and self-care first.
— Donna, Canada
I highly recommend this course. Dr. Margaret is an awesome counselor and healer. I have found a peace and hope I’ve never before experienced because of the growth I made during this course. I cannot express my gratitude enough to Dr. Margaret.
— Sandy, Trenton, Michigan
I would definitely recommend this course to everyone. I have finally opened to learning to love myself and taking responsibility for my life, I have more tools to help me practice Inner Bonding, and turn to my Guidance with an intent to learn what the next loving action might be.
— Wendy, Southington, Connecticut
I enjoyed this class immensely. [Dr. Margaret] teaches that we always have to take care, love and respect ourselves first before any change can really happen. I loved this course because now I have tools to use when I am distressed that will help me to overcome this feeling.
— Cheri, San Diego, California
Margaret’s course was THE most powerful and transformative experience in my 20+ years of spiritual practice.
— Aida, New York, New York
Dr. Margaret Paul is the author/co-author of several bestselling books, including Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids? and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Her books have been distributed around the world and translated into 11 languages.
Margaret holds a PhD in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant, and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including The Oprah Show, successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and business people, and taught classes and seminars since 1967.
Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples, accessing spiritual guidance during these sessions, which enables her to work with people all over the world. She is passionate about helping people rapidly heal the root cause of their pain, and learn the path to joy and loving relationships.
Q: What is a virtual course?
A: It’s a great way to engage live teachings and each other from the comfort of your home! All you need is a phone line (or an equivalent voice service). If there is more than one person in your household taking the course, you will each need your own line. We use MaestroConference to make it just like an in-person event, where you can ask questions, participate in groups, and deepen your exploration of the course themes.
Please note that dialing MaestroConference from your phone is a regular toll call to California; your telephone service provider will charge you according to your existing long-distance calling plan. Other options include calling cards and discount long-distance carriers. You can also use Skype to connect to MaestroConference at no charge, and we offer a webcast which is free to use from anywhere in the world.
I have never participated before in an online course. The packaging, presentation, inclusion and Facebook postings created a wonderful, safe cocoon to participate. I haven’t seen a course so well put together ever — not in all the years of taking college classes — and I had my doubts about doing an online course. The wealth of organization and ease of learning materials and support made this fun as well.
– Claudia F., Medford, MA
Q: Can I get benefit from the course if I miss the live classes?
A: Absolutely! You can download the recordings and transcripts of all course sessions from our online media archive, so you never need to worry about missing live calls. You can also engage the full community and leaders on our private community website.
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